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Q. That is the question ... I notice that NLP works very well
when dealing with people with whom I met after meeting
with NLP. As for my old friends ... Tyt, apparently, is
some of the stereotypes of communication, which, like me (ie
moemy unconscious) seems to be working and communicating with
these people, it is these stereotypes and polzyeshsya. What's
frustrating because nyzhna constant practice. How the hell do I
solve this? As when dealing with such people, do not forget
that you are NLP-er? (Yes forgive me for a mixture of logical
yrovney ...:)
A. Thank you once again drew my attention to
syschestvovanie, y me a similar problem.
I describe it like this:
1. As soon as I vizhy man
My "podtyanytost" washed
and I look at his old eyes,
eyes that have seen it has finally arrived.
2. At this point, I finally arrived under.
3. I chyvstvyyu that it is he keeps me going
all pykami and legs.
4. Their stereotypes of people makes
I use my old patterns.
5. Cut off from the new resyrsov
I y it on a hook.
I found out for myself. Here it is:
1. This mechanism stops working
if you refuse to accept drygogo
as a set of stereotypes (frozen picture)
emy, and give the right to be (plyvyt color).
2. Now tvoemy subconscious
has finally arrived for which no yhvatitsya in this man.
3. You can keep formy.
A. I, too, with similar stolknylsya zatrydneniyami. Got to the
point that vedyschyyu rap. sistemy could not be determined.
Really helped me Book Charles Tart, "The practice of
mindfulness in everyday Life Uncle in the form of seminars
presented his version of Gydzhievskih practices. For myself, I
pulled ottyda sledyyuschee: There are some state
"vision-hearing-chyvstvovanie (WAC favorite:). While in this
state we are in the present. Achieved something like this:
- Close your eyes and checks as a right chyvstvyet
stypnya, then shin, knee, thigh, (continuing oschyschat all
predidyschee), palm, elbow, shoulder and then move to the right
shoulder on the right side spyskaeshsya to stypni. After this
oschyschaesh whole body at once. Moreover, the generation of
any specific oschyscheny leave for meditation, just as it is
there fiksiryesh a chyvstvyet.
- Continuing oschyschat body, you begin to slyshat that
proshodit vokryg you trying to select individual zvyki. IMHO,
fun to share audible to the two channels left and right:).
- Continuing oschyschat and slyshat, open your eyes and see
its okryzhenie, fiksiryya look at some things exactly
enough to realize what it is. Memorize it
Status and call once you meet an old acquaintance.
Friday April 11, 1997, letter to Alexey Kapterev to All:
A. I notice that NLP works very well when dealing with people
with whom I met after getting acquainted with NLP.
What exactly works well, can you at pynktam list?
As for my old friends ... Tyt, apparently there are some
stereotypes of communication, which, like me (ie moemy
subconscious) seems to work, and communicating with these
people, it is these stereotypes and polzyeshsya. What's
frustrating because nyzhna constant practice.
. Kazhdyyu-kazhdyyu minyty? And tyalete and in a dream? But
what if you bydet . Allow yourself to NLP-ers where about 8
hours a day and the rest of the time . Will have to live like?
How the hell do I solve this? As when dealing with such
people do not forget that you are NLP-er?
. Still, it's two different issues: how to behave poNLPerski and
. Kommynikatsiyu how to do with my old friends over
. Yspeshnoy.
With regard to NLPerskogo povededeniya ... and how would you
notice that behave with them in NLPerski? With new friends,
then you are not with compare, so you can easily announce their
behavior NLPerskim. And there's y I guess that with the old
a lot of friends ispolzyetsya. As a test, ask them what
changed in how you vzaimodeystvyete.
As for ylychsheniya kommynikatsii with old friends ...
There is one major reason why So why the "external" NLPerskie
tricks are played poorly. External I tyt call such as
adjustment of posture / rhythm / golosy and maintenance,
repsistemnye games - shorter than those that operate at low
logic yrovnyah okryzheniya and behavior. After all, old friends
you have long been dealing with, and hence _yzhe_ you have
rapport, and at yrovne ybezhdeny as minimym. It is natural that
all external shelyha this slychae does not matter. You can
adjust how much ygodno to pose and breathing, but if your mom
yverena that must marry, but you - that we can live and so you
tell her his theory on a per breathing is not vparish. Not the
logical yroven.
But pometamodelirovat myagonko, it does else be the default
alignment. Tyt you go to the Logical nyzhny yroven and chances
appear. But there is speculation that with the people with whom
you really really familiar, even on yrovne ybezhdeny
work a little, nyzhno above. Because ybezhdeniya aka
presyppozitsii idyt ottyda from the mission and identity. A yzh
to do with them unlikely that it is possible, and most
importantly nyzhno it? What do formulation of the problem?
A. Here's how I konstryiryyu yprazhneniya, softeners patterns
of perception.
Beres modality of the tail. Privyazyvaesh it to predmety.
Rybish tail. Hold obrybok in pykah, oschypyvaesh all shkaly.
Now you possess all kyskami ...
Syt to perceiving subject, you deliberately moved
shkaly in different directions. Swaying, Bring dvyh
opposite states. Anchored both. Bring fast
transition. Vospolzyysya them immediately. Yet. Yet. Yet. And
now vklyuchaesh both anchors ...
Example. Look at the wallpaper.
What they are: light or dark?
Alternately ysilivaesh both sybmodalnosti.
When the difference bydet syschestvennoy - anchor.
Rocked further five to ten minute digits.
Stop. Oschyti. A little more.
Now zadeystvyy both anchors.
